Me and my husband divorced after he got a young chick pregnant. After months of therapy I moved on and even went on dates. He didn’t marry the side piece, although this is what she hoped for. He bought a 3 room apartment for the baby and her but never really moved in with them. She is from a somehow poor family with an autistic young brother and partially disabled mother (she took care of both as father was not in the picture). So she sure hoped that baby trapping a good looking man with money is her ticket to a better life. I talked with a common friend of me and my ex and besides this, she also said that probably her mother was pushing her in baby trapping him. The details of the disabled family members I found about recently. So this side piece was very mean to me and texted me at the time she got pregnant how she got my husband and called me old bore. I am almost 40 but it still hurt.
So their son is now one years old. Her and my ex hate each other and are violent with each other. He hit her with his belt and slapped her, she hit him too and threw things at him. The main problem is that she is leaving the child unattended and even leave the house to get his attention … or make him angry. She is taking depression medication and is quite hysterical and has anger control issues. My ex texted me to meet and talk because he is sorry. Actually he wanted to take full custody of the child and re-marry me so I can raise his son because she is “too young and unstable”. I told him to f off. Blocked him.
I don’t regret I told him to f. Off. He ruined my life. He was a 40 years old man who acted like a teenager. He hurt me and scarred me for life. Now I date someone and he tried to make me dump that guy so we can be a family again. I just hate him. I am not really asking here for any advice as I don’t intend to do anything. But morally I am confused and feel sorry for that child. I just wanted to let it all out also because I kinda feel satisfaction that the side piece is not happy either and he chose an emotionally unstable woman. And well I feel like a bad person somehow. I think I will go back to therapy because it’s not good to feel happy when someone is in that state of mind as that woman is.
PS. She is not “too young”. She was 25 when the baby was born.
